Suoma the Life Coach

A friend recently asked for advice on how to cut someone out of her life. I have successfully cut several people out of my life (yeah I’m a bit of a jerk when it comes to keeping my environment glitch-free, drama-free and crap-free ), so I’ve totally been there, done that... There are certain people that should not be in your life for one reason or another (yes, even if you love them! ), but how do you know it’s time to cut them out, what are the acceptable reasons for chucking them and how can you successfully do it? Learn from the Lifecoach. First of all, let me just tell you that you will just know that you know when you know that somebody has got to go! However, the following reasons are considered quiet reasonable: 1.  Someone who keeps you around solely for their own benefit & never gives 2. The person you broke up with but you are not over them (you’re so not ready to handle news of their new romantic interests) 3. Someone who greatly disrespects you or...

There are certain things that you’ve probably been doing all your life that keep you unhappy and not enjoying your now-life. These are self-distracting habits that we have  subconsciously  come to accept as inevitable truths of our life cycle. You will very likely disagree with me (I know this, because half of my friends kinda disagree with me), but I want to coach you to learn to live in the moment and I hope (unlike my dear friends) that somebody catches my drift ( and that somebody is YOU, just in case you're wondering...) Every moment and every season of your life is as important as the next; your future is not more important than your present, just as your present isn’t more important than your past. No season should take up so much time of the other season, every season should be lived in its time; the present. Leave the past in the past, live tomorrow when tomorrow comes, but now; now is now, so live now. The Past First of all; living in yesterday ...

And so I realized that since I set up this blog, I haven’t introduced myself. Like, who does that, right? You kinda deserve to know the person behind the writing, so that it helps you relate to me (or maybe not), but it should definitely help you understand where I’m coming from when you read this stuff. I’m a 23 year-old Kwambi-Ndonga from Oshakati, living in Windhoek. My embedded labels include: Black, Namibian, Female, Christian: born-again (but people would rather ignore this part), Wambo and Employed. People may describe me as the girl with the dreads, the girl that laughs a lot, or the girl that likes people, the choir girl, the law girl, the girl with the hoarse voice, the Church-girl or more recently, the lifecoach girl :) I have humbly accepted my labels; I ain't scared of them. I’m no more than meets the eye; I am what they call “ an open book ”. I’m a very good person (if I may say so myself), but I’m quite an ass on many occasions as well. For example; I...

A number of people have confessed to me that sometimes they feel like they are not liked very much and they hate it; they ask me for advice, “People seem to like you a lot, how do you do it? How do people just like you?” And in my head, I’m like “Oh well, that’s probably just because I’m pretty awesome and stuff *hides*”. That’s a joke. Maybe J    Sometimes I do get this feeling that someone doesn’t like me and there are times when I feel unwanted and it sucks terribly.  What’s funny, for me, is that the internet is graced with quotes that say things like this. I'm gonna be that lifecoach that tells you that there's something wrong with that kinda picture. As human beings, we generally want to be affirmed & appreciated by others, coz we are created to connect with other people; it can honestly be quite harsh on the soul if people don’t like you. Then you have to act like you don't care, coz the world is telling you that you're a major loser if you care w...