Suoma the Life Coach

So many souls out here getting engaged, getting married and being all sorts of serious about commitment, so I decided to blog about marriage, because in the midst of it all; divorce rates are horrifically high . And yes, I’ve never been married before, but I’m a pseudo Divorce lawyer, so I kinda know what I’m talking about.   Here is a list of some things I believe they hardly tell us about marriage , which is a real pity, coz most of us just enter this thing in a sort of delusion. One of the biggest reasons marriages aren’t working is because satan hates marriage sooo much , you have no idea. I don’t mean to be all spiritual about it, but that’s the truth. Marriage is a spiritual institution, created by God for our utmost enjoyment and for God’s glory, so it kinda makes a lot of sense why the devil would attack it like crazy. So, yeah, that’s the first thing on the list: 1. There’s a reason why marriages are solemnized in church, why vows ar...

This blogging thing has got me feeling like some type of relationship expert, though... Disclaimer : The views and wisdom expressed in this blog do not reflect the state of my love life in any way. Or lack thereof, rather… Remember when we were younger and boys would write notes to girls asking them to be their girlfriends? The girl would then tick in the appropriate box YES or NO. Oh no wait, that’s just in the American movies. Where I’m from (the north), a boy asked you nicely to be his girlfriend, and if you showed hints of resistance, brother-man would just twist your arm into obedience. Little savages.         Anyway, my point is: relationships were quite easier then (if we can call them relationships at the age of 12). If there was someone in your life, at least you knew for sure if you were in a relationship-relationship or not. Things have changed quite dramatically. Guys don’t even ask anymore (Like, what's up with that, boys?). N...

So, I went on a date with this other eligible hunk a couple of months ago. ( Yes, I do go on dates sometimes. And yes, there are eligible hunks around here… ) We were on the subject of relationships, (obviously) and I was on a rant, explaining to him why so many men are just below standard, and lo and behold, he turned the tables, squinted his eyes, stared right at me and almost-whispered this question; “What do you have to offer? Why should anybody marry you?” Yup, threw me right off. Let’s ignore his arrogance. We’ll appreciate his straight-forwardness and the lesson I learned, which I’m about to share with you, ladies… Also, the sad reality and truth of the matter is that good women are so few and far apart. No kidding.  It got me thinking alright.  Value addition. Why should anybody be eager to marry you instead of, say, somebody else? Or instead of being alone rather? What value are you prepared to add that could motivate a guy to give up the life of...

For some pathetic and probably natural cause, I’ve been thinking about marriage lately. Like, A FLIPPING LOT, almost absolutely every day. I’m also finding myself engrossed in conversation about marriage and weddings, like all the time. Must be because, my sister, my best friend and my colleague are all getting married, (and pretty much everybody else) and everything else on my twitter and Instagram feed basically screams “Marriage! Wedding! Compatibility! Wedding-shoots” The irrational notion that the clock ticks and has started doing so in my case is badgering against my brain. No no, don’t worry, I’m not getting paranoid... Or maybe I am. *sigh* Whatever.   Anyway, here we are: in the 21 st Century and things have changed dramatically since our grandmothers had gotten married. I, as any other female millennial would relate, am a victim of banners that shout that 21 st Century girls are not marriage material. *rolls eyes* Fair enough. Here are the following insu...