Suoma the Life Coach

  So, let’s talk about this whole thing about finding your soul mate "established" and stuff... This article may liberate you from Atelophobia. Let me get this right: you want somebody who’s grown, stable and fully mature. You want to find them tried, tested, dusted and done. You want to find them properly established, and knowing where they’re going. You don’t want somebody with baggage; you don’t want somebody who’s got drama and issues. You want to settle down with somebody who is sure of themselves, has a distinguishable identity which is set and doesn’t necessarily “need” you. Fair enough.  Now, I want you to think about yourself and answer the following questions: Are you absolutely certainly whole?  Are you grown, stable and copiously mature?  Have you been tried, tested, done and dusted?  Have you completely established yourself?  You are so sure of yourself and you know exactly what’s ahead of you and what awaits you there?...

Situation -  sɪtjʊˈeɪʃ(ə)n/ n. a set of circumstances in which one finds oneself; a state of affairs. Relationship - rɪˈleɪʃ(ə)nʃɪp/ n. the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected. Situationship - sɪtjʊˈeɪʃ(ə)ʃɪpn/ n. a connection between two people that one simply finds himself in; almost similar to, but substantially  different from “friends with benefits”  One blogger defined it as...   "a romantic involvement between two people which includes, but not limited to, frequent dating, house visits, (possible) parent meeting, (possible) friend sharing, sex... (sometimes) and the catching of feelings by at least one person. However, there are absolutely NO titles established in this union. No rules, no regulations, no responsibility, NO BOUNDARIES!" - Alondra Hunt A situationship is basically: let’s just chill and be cool, we can even have sex plus have deep emotions for each other, and be confused a...

This is my December gift to you; a  a list of things you should persistently commit to in order to be a miserable person. Do at least ten of these things and I ensure you that you will be the worst person ever! I am guilty of at least 23% of these, but here's to personal development :)  1. You don’t know the difference between a cquaintanceship and friendship . Some people have acquaintance-zoned you, but you’re too ignorant to tell. And you give way too many friend benefits to people who are actually just acquaintances. 2. You don’t like yourself much. Two major problems with this: 1. You can’t possibly genuinely like other people (with their flaws and all) and 2. You think people are fake when they actually  like you. 3. You believe that life is unfair more especially to you and bad things are always happening to you. The problem is; you will always be selfish , because, compared to yours,  other...

A friend recently asked for advice on how to cut someone out of her life. I have successfully cut several people out of my life (yeah I’m a bit of a jerk when it comes to keeping my environment glitch-free, drama-free and crap-free ), so I’ve totally been there, done that... There are certain people that should not be in your life for one reason or another (yes, even if you love them! ), but how do you know it’s time to cut them out, what are the acceptable reasons for chucking them and how can you successfully do it? Learn from the Lifecoach. First of all, let me just tell you that you will just know that you know when you know that somebody has got to go! However, the following reasons are considered quiet reasonable: 1.  Someone who keeps you around solely for their own benefit & never gives 2. The person you broke up with but you are not over them (you’re so not ready to handle news of their new romantic interests) 3. Someone who greatly disrespects you or...