Suoma the Life Coach

When you're trying to start something great or you're busy pursuing your dreams, it's extremely important to have a great support system. It's even more important to acknowledge that the best support system isn't external, but it lies within yourself.  "If you live off a man's complements, you'll die from his criticsm." Cornelius Lindsey This quote absolutely resonates with my toes; it is so true. If you always look for approval and wait for people to pat you on the back for a job well done, it becomes addictive (I've totally been there). You will get to a point where you feel like you're not doing great just because somebody hasn't told you that you are. And when they tell they don't think your plans or ideas are worth a penny, you'll easily believe them. This is why it's so important that when you do something, your reason for doing it should come from within so that whatever is from without will not frustrate

There is a strangely common request that seems very simple but would always leave me with a potato in the throat and make me feel like I’ve been tasked to explain the molecular build-up and scientific formula of a sophisticated form of petroleum jelly:  “Please, introduce yourself.”   I swear, I always though there was a special place in Lucifer’s braai for people that asked that question.  I mean, I don’t know who I am. What do you mean “introduce yourself”? I was forced to make up stuff that made me an ordinary person by basically copying what little of introductions I’ve read or heard somewhere of people that are at least “similar” to me. But I could not tell you who I was. I was freaked out by the prospect of telling someone who I was. Like, do I tell them the truth or just the good stuff? Wait, what good stuff?  Growing up, I realized that this is quite common in most people. Maybe it is because of a fear of seeming egocentric or conceited if you say good thi